You can't buy confidence.

I recently opened up my handbag collection to my teenage daughter.

I told her she can use whatever bag she wants any time, and save her money to invest in the stock market.

When I look at my handbag collection, what I see is the person I was 20 years ago, the one who needed those bags to show people I was one of them, as good as them, the same “class” as them.

But the feelings of low self worth don’t go away because you have some fancy shiny labels on your stuff.

I’m not saying you can’t enjoy and admire nice things (I do).

I’m not saying you can’t have your favorite brands (I do).

But I don’t need to pay the Hermès family in hopes people won’t look down on me because I don’t feel good about myself.
(The Hermès family is already wealthy enough, they don’t need my money.)

The value created by the bag should be for a purpose other than filling the dark hole that was my ego.
Because money simply can’t fill an emotional pit. It just doesn’t work.

No amount of money or hard work can heal your feelings of worthlessness, lack of confidence, imposter syndrome - because this is inside you.

Only when you work on your inside and align this with your outside does everything come into place.

Which is how my client Taylor has been able to make the tough decision to turn down a dream offer from her current company, and happily choose a new job, new career path at another company that seems not so great on surface.

The offer from her current company, the recognition she is receiving now is beyond what most people experience in their careers (they're throwing everything they can at her to try and keep her). And would only have been a dream before in her old company where she was pushed out and told off for being a poor performer (in spite of her actual numbers).

It's nice but... Taylor version 1.0 would've jumped.

Taylor version 2.0 no longer needs the “Hermès bag” to make her feel worthy.

Because she now knows her worth, she has the confidence to look beyond what other people consider the markers of success, to create her successful life, on her own terms.

She’s come so far on her path from when we first started coaching, that she has complete clarity that her choice supports both what she wants to create for her career and her personal life.

“Natalie, in the past coaching was a cost for me, it was a want.
Now it's a fundamental, not that cannot do it myself, but with you it's easier, better, efficient.”

Taylor is no longer afraid of what the future holds - she's excited at the prospect of the space to create that comes from not knowing, and invited me to continue co-creating her life with her, in a way that is true to her, her values, her goals.

She's excited to see what Taylor version 3.0 will be like.

You can’t take the emotion out of your career decisions.
You can’t take your personal life out of your career decisions.
You can’t take your career out of your personal decisions.

This is your life we’re talking about, and you are a whole human being.

It simply isn’t possible to arbitrarily cut your life up into individual parts.
In the same way you can’t cut yourself up into parts.

Because you bring you to every part of your life.

Which is why I say

I coach whole human beings, not job titles.

- Natalie

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝟮 𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝗲:

1.⁠ ⁠𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽𝘀 𝗧𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗽 𝗰𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺 : I’m working on our next Relationships That Work Program intake, tentatively scheduled for October launch. If you’re interested to transform your home and work relationships to transform your life, DM me.

2.⁠ ⁠𝟭:𝟭 𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗖𝗼𝗮𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺: I work with a highly select group of senior leaders to help you get the clarity, strategy and take action to create the life you want. I’m opening up 2 spots in September, DM me if you’re interested.

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